Thursday, May 27, 2010

Beauty vs. The Beast





Do you remember watching the Disney version of "Beauty and The Beast"? I do. What thoughts were running through your head? What were you thinking? Did you want Belle to end up with the Beast? I had mixed emotions about that. I distinctly remember ONE thought that kept running through my 4 year old mind as I was watching the movie. When the beast turned into his human form, I always thought that he was not handsome enough to be with Belle.

I am so ashamed that a thought such as that came into my mind. But, these thoughts inspired me to look deeper into the influence that beauty and looks have on people. I mean, as a 4 year old child I came to the conclusion that Belle should not like the Beast because he was not attractive enough. Obviously, for most humans, importance is given to looks and beauty.

But, this is definitely not how it should be. Shouldn't personality matter more than beauty? YES! Then, why do people allow themselves to focus on beauty? How many times have I heard guys judge a girl by their looks? Or, a girl doubt the love of a guy because she is not attractive enough.


It bothers me the most when I see individuals let beauty bring down their self esteem. When are people going to realize that beauty is not the most important thing AND that even the things that seem strange or "UGLY" are actually BEAUTIFUL! If you have confidence in yourself, that is what people will see. SO, if you believe that you are beautiful. Then this is what people will see. Be confident in yourself and the things that people say will not bother you.


So, My view has changed a lot concerning the union of Beauty and the Beast. Beauty saw something in the Beast. It was not physical. She saw something sweet and beautiful in him. And that is what is important.
I don't want to keep saying this but I will. Please remember that you are beautiful no matter what anyone says. Remember to not let looks get you down. It's the personality that counts!
"For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it"
-Ivan Panin
Szeretlek
~~~~~~~Lourdes Teresita~~~~~~~

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

NEVER give up!



Have you ever been told by someone you love that something isn't achievable? Or that you couldn't have something that you wanted? I've been told that several times in the past couple of weeks. It hurts a lot when someone tells me that. But, that';s all right.


My father has always told me that I am capable of doing anything that I put my mind to. He always told me that if you wanted something enough and were passionate enough about that something you would work hard enough to obtain it. Goals and wants are achievable ONLY when you put the "umph" into getting it. But they are NEVER out of reach!! When you start telling yourself that, you start to believe it. And, when you start to believe it, you won't put the effort into obtaining it.

A limit on what you will do, puts a limit on what you can do.
Anonymous


So, don't limit yourself by telling yourself something is unattainable. Believe in it, and it will happen.

When you find yourself doubting that something is obtainable, just sit and think. What exactly is the problem? Why do you think it isn't obtainable? Is it your confidence in yourself? More often than not, it is. I know that my confidence in myself is usually the reason why I doubt that my goals are obtainable. So, (for probably the thousandth time in my history of blogging) I am going to say : Be confident in yourself. This works wonders. When you are confident, you feel good about yourself. You start believing that anything is possible. And, this gives you the strength to do all that you can do to obtain what you want.
So, to all of the people that have told me that my goals can't be reached, or that my wants cannot be attained, this is what I have to say:

"I am rubber, and you are glue..."

Just kidding. Seriously, the following quote by Steve Belmarsh says it all.
"
No one will ever see me quit, because I simply won't
. If I start something, I will do it well"

I have to add the following to the quote.

If I want something, I will do anything in my power (that is honest, and that will not hurt others) to obtain it. NOTHING is out of my reach. I will reach for the sky and be able to pull down stars.

Remember:

"Anyone can give up. it is the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it
together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true
strength"
-Anonymous


Mahal na mahal kita!!!
~~~~Laura~~~~

Monday, May 24, 2010

365 Days of Happiness May 19- May 24




I'm back. I hope you enjoy this addition to the list. Try some of this out. It certainly made me happy.

Wednesday May 19

My Body

Talking Through Problems


My body. No matter what people say IT IS BEAUTIFUL! No matter what my weight, shape or size. It took me a while to realize this, but I did and it has made me happier and more self-confident.
It feels bad when problems arise in life. When I have a problem, It stays in the back of my head. I keep thinking about it. I can't sleep. I can't eat. they take over my life. But, Talking through a problem always seems to make it better. I may not come up with a solution, but at least I have thought about the circumstances. This clears my mind and gives me hope that everything is going to be OK.

Thursday May 20

Salsa Dancing

Hanging Out with a New Person


I have found something that makes me so happy. Something that I wake up thinking about. Something that I have so much fun doing.
SALSA!!!!!
It's so much fun. It makes me feel good. It makes me feel sexy. It makes me so much more confident in myself. It was something that I was scared of doing. And, the fact that I am having so much fun with it makes me so much happier.
Taking the salsa classes has also made me realize that hanging out with a new person is fun and enjoyable. I have learned that new people can teach you something new about yourself. They can show you that there is so much more that you can offer a person. Every person you meet will see something different inside of you. And, like you for that particular thing. When you take the time to get to know a new person, you can learn this new thing about yourself.

Friday May 21

Playing Pool With Friends

I recently had the pleasure of hanging out and playing pool with a friend, and it was this night that convinced me that pool was so much fun. The game allows you to talk and laugh and get to know the person/people that you are playing with.

Saturday May 22

My Boyfriends Laugh

My boyfriend has many different laughs. But, there is a particular laugh that makes me go weak in the knees. It's when he hears something extremely funny. This laugh makes me so happy, that I can't even describe the feeling. All I can say is that when I hear it, the smile that appears on my face cannot be wiped away.

Sunday May 23

When my Boyfriend Plays with my Hair

Random Cooking Events


This is the most amazing feeling in the world. I don't know how to describe. It not only physically feels good, but it also gives a sense of love and gentleness.

Today, I had the pleasure of cooking and baking with one of my good friends. It was essentially unplanned. Cooking is a way to relax and get away from the world. You are creating something. And, doing this with a friend makes it ten times greater and more meaningful.

Monday May 24

Strawberries with Sugar

Tastes amazing. It reminds me of my mom and my sisters. It was our snack when we were little.


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So... I will add to the list later. I hope you enjoyed.


“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
Frederick Keonig


With much love and happiness,
*****Lourdes*****

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

365 days of happiness May 9- May 18


So, I am back to give the list of things that make me happy. This list will encompass things from Sunday, May 9 to Tuesday, May 18. Hope you enjoy and hope everyone is doing this. It really is food for the soul.

May 9

Cross stitching

This might sound dumb, but it relaxes me and gives me time to think. I love making things and seeing the end product and that is what I am doing when I cross stitch.

May 10

Going to a national park

I love the feeling of the fresh air and the sights that can be seen on a nature trail. It shows me that there is a-lot of beauty and good in the world. All you have to do is find it and seek it out.

May 11

Taking pictures of random things that I see

I love doing this. They create memories and laughs. I love to take pictures of my food when I go out to dinner. I hate it when I can remember where we ate on a certain day, but cannot remember what was ordered. The simplest things make a memory. They are part of the memory and the experience. Pictures help to capture that.

May 12

Writing a letter to a friend

Writing letters to a friend help me to look inside myself. When I write, I try to tell about my day and thoughts and feelings. Thus, when I write, I am finding out more about myself. =Happy

May 13

Having coffee with a friend

When I have coffee with a friend, we always end up talking about something deep and meaningful. This gives a time for me to let out what I am thinking and feeling so that I don't have my thoughts swimming around in my head and driving me crazy.
It also gives me time to get to know others. And I love getting to know other people.

May 14

Bowling

Birthday surprises

Birthday cakes

You could probably guess that this was my birthday. I love anything that has to do with birthdays. The calls, the cakes, the presents. (presents not so much). But all of these things make me feel special. As if someone out there actually cared for me. I went bowling on my birthday and realized the following: No matter how bad I am at bowling, I feel successful when I touch at least one pin. That makes me happy.

May 15

Doing laundry with a friend

I love doing laundry. It's almost as if my troubles are being washed away from my life with the dirt stains from my clothes. Doing laundry with a friend is 10x better. I get a new slate and I get to talk to someone I love.

May 16

Modeling clay

Sushi dinner with friends

These are both things that have to do with the things I did today. My friend Kayla surprised me with a birthday gift and one of the gifts was modeling clay. I love modeling clay because it allows me to create things and be creative. It gives me a feeling of accomplishment.
Sushi dinners are always fun. Sushi is delicious and eating with friends makes it better. The conversations, the laughs. They make my day a little brighter and bring happiness into it.

May 17

Finishing a math proof

Puzzles

Getting to know someone better

Each of these things are fulfilling in their own way. Yet, to me, a math proof and puzzles are linked. They both require taking small facts or pieces and putting them together to create a final product. It's creativity and thought that bring these things to a finish. It's amazing.
Getting to know someone better is great. How boring would life be if you only knew yourself and you only cared about yourself? Would your life have meaning? When you get to know someone better, you start to let yourself love them. You allow yourself to let someone in and be a companion. And it's these people that you share your experiences with.

May 18

The burning feeling you get when you work out

OK, I know it hurts. But it gives a feeling of accomplishment.


SO, there's my list for the past couple days. Hope you enjoy, and feel free to start your own.


auf weidersehen


~~~~Laura~~~~

Monday, May 17, 2010

Be who you are and LOVE it!!!!

Whenever I am on campus and find myself with free time, I like to sit and observe the people walking by. I look at many things, but the one thing I am focusing on is the confidence of the people walking by. I used to walk around in envy of others. I envied the self-confidence others seemed to have.
But I am starting to notice more and more that most people do not have self-confidence or have low self-esteem. When I noticed this, it made me focus on myself. I found that when I was younger, I did not care what others thought. I was one of those annoying kids. I said what popped into my head and didn't care what anyone thought (I have videos to prove this). What happened to this person? It's as if, this person was kidnapped. I have become extremely self-conscious. I doubt everything I do. I constantly tell myself that things are unreachable. WHY, and how do I change?
With the help of my boyfriend, I delved deeper and found that I was so afraid of negative feedback. So afraid of criticism. I will never forget the day I thought about this and figured this out. May 2,2010. It'll be the day that changed my life. It was the day that I decided that this was all going to change. I am not going to let fear rule me. I am going to do anything that I am interested in, no matter what. I will not let the fear of failing stop me from pursuing something. Thus, I have started a list of things that I have always wanted to do but have never had the guts to pursue:
  1. salsa dancing
  2. write a book
  3. get in shape
  4. etc.... (suggestions please?)

I am also trying to work on my self-image. The following quote by Maryanne Williamson was very inspirational.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, "who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and famous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world."

This quote describes my thought processes exactly. I could never take a compliment on beauty or smarts because I did not want to seem cocky, or full of myself. So, I always turned the compliments away and told myself they were not true. But I was doing myself more harm by doing this. Because, when you start to tell yourself negative things, you start to believe them.

So, the first step is to try to undo all the harm I was doing to myself. I have looked in the mirror everyday for the past week and a half and have found positive things about myself. Hopefully this is will get me on the right track. Because I realize that no one else will be able to love and appreciate me if I don't love and appreciate myself.

So, hopefully this is an inspiration for someone out there. And, for those of you reading this, I would definitely like suggestions to my list started above.

With lots of love and faith,

~Lourdes~

Saturday, May 8, 2010

365 Days of Happiness :D






"The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for"





-Allan K. Chalmers


Happiness is hard to define. It's something you feel. But, it's not JUST something you feel. It is more than that. Happiness can determine your quality of life. It can influence your actions and your decisions. Too many people go on with their lives not thinking about their happiness. I, myself, am included in that. So, I decided that I am going to change that.I am going to acknowledge the things that make me happy in life, and I am going to try to bring more of those things into my life. Because, when I am happy, I can actually make others happy.












In order to do this. I have to have a game plan and I actually have to look inside and find the things that make me happy. So, Everyday, I am going to look inside myself and find at LEAST one thing that makes me happy. I have been doing this for about 2 weeks now and have found that it feels good. It makes me appreciate things a little bit more. Thus, I suggest you do it to. Become in touch with your happiness.




This is my promise to myself. I will do this for 365 days starting May 8,2010 and I will update you on my list everytime I blog.

So, here are my May 8th thing that makes me happy:

A random smile from a random person, and an unexpected call from someone that I love.


bonne soiree
find happiness in everything you do

<3 lourdes <3